Infertility is a very sensitive topic. Raising a family is not an easy task. Even the thought of being unable to bore children can land people into depression. People might feel that there is something wrong with them. Such a scenario creates a lot of stress and in a way leads to tremendous uncertainty. Infertility also leads to a lot of emotional turmoil.
Here are a few tips for coping with the infertility stress.
The first step towards bringing down the stress is to feel yourself. The whole period wherein you go through the various tests and many procedures leads to emotional torture and is physically taxing. One might also feel that there is no control on the body. Most of the couples expect a biological child. This dream is shattered as a result of infertility.
While dealing with infertility, it is advised to meet people and have them around you. If required speak to a counselor. Meet other couples who are going through the same ordeal. This will make you assured that you are not the one who is alone. You will be in the company of like minded people with whom you can share all your problems and concerns.
Never control feelings like anger, guilt or distress. If you feel the urge to cry, don’t stop yourself. Go ahead. Experts have suggested planning a time every day and focus on venting out the feelings related to infertility. This will make you feel much better and thus give you the energy to cope with the problem. One should also allow oneself to grieve. Remember that unresolved despair leads to anxiety. Though one hopes for a successful pregnancy, the mind has already started cursing oneself about not being able to have a biological child.
Connect with your partner and your people
Building a bridge with the family and connecting back with your friends is one of the many ways of reducing the infertility stress. Connecting with your people gives enough strength to those facing the problem of infertility. In addition to this, the people can offer their support and love.
Infertility can lead to a feeling of inadequacy, sexual pressure and adversely affect marriage. Man and women are likely to respond to the crisis in a different way. It is advisable to seek a counselor in case if there is any rift between you and your partner. There are chances that males will distant themselves emotionally on the topic of infertility. A few sessions with the counselor might turn to be fruitful and you can regain your marriage life.
Don’t blame yourself
It is wise to prevent yourself from blaming yourself and say negative things to yourself. In case feelings like ‘should have’ and ‘could have’ start popping up your mind, remember that fertility problem is not your fault. A negative attitude is only going to result in stress.
There are chances that one might feel that nothing is working. This will still lead to a feeling of an emotional drain. Accept the situation in the best way you can. The stress management skills will make you feel good and you might also be prepared for parenthood.